Speaking to a distressed friend

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Types of Questions

These questions can start a bit of a conversation

  • Are you feeling OK?
  • Are you OK?
  • Is everything going OK for you?
  • Are you happy with the [course/ relationship / share house etc]?

However they are closed questions (that is they can be answered with just a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’).

It is even better to try and ask open questions (questions that require more than one word to respond) although these are harder to construct.

Here are some examples of open questions

What’s going on for you at the moment?

How is the [course / relationship / share house etc] going for you?

You are not coming out anymore? How are things going?

I haven’t seen you around much lately. How are things?

What’s happening with your course at the moment?

How do you feel about your new share house?

What do you think about the course?

How are you and [insert name of partner, family member, friend etc] going?

How are you going with studies and having [migraines / an ill mum / a full-time job etc]?

Can we catch up sometime for a coffee? When would be good for you?

How does your illness affect you at uni/Tafe/college?

What’s it been like for you coping with the loss of your [mum, dad, brother, friend etc]?

Where are things at?

You seem quite tired, how are you sleeping?